Theme: Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment
How to Make Peace With Your Inner Critic (Part I)
How you answer these two question will tell you a lot about how you relate to the most important person in your life—YOU. Take a few deep breaths and ask yourself the following questions:
QUESTION 1 - What happens to your body, mind, and spirit when you are faced with your inadequacies, failings, shortcomings, and flaws?
QUESTION 2 - How do you handle any thoughts, feelings, or sensations that might come up for you in those moments?
Seriously, sit with these questions for as many moments as you may need. You may even go ahead and grab a paper-and-pencil.
Now go ahead and thank yourself for taking the first step in practicing self-compassion. Self-compassion is all about paying attention. You must pay attention to your suffering in order to feel moved by it. You must feel moved by it in order to actually do something about it.
WHY WOULD YOU FEEL MOVED TO “DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT”?
Not because you are flawed, broken, or inadequate and need to change or “fix” yourself but because you deeply care about yourself, your health, and your happiness.
When you practice self-compassion, you go from ignoring your pain or flagellating yourself with self-criticism to telling yourself “this is really difficult right now,” how can I soothe and take care of myself?
You are effectively learning to parent yourself by being open to your experience in the here-and-now. You are not indulging yourself or wallowing in your pain but listening with acceptance to your thoughts, emotions, and sensations in order to apply a proactive approach to the very human condition of suffering.
Sofia Vasilakos (2018)